When it comes to trying to pick up girls, the bottom line is this: you can study technique after technique from all the pick up books and videos that you want, but you will not make any real progress until you get the inner game inside your own head working FOR you instead of working AGAINST you. And for that I believe there is no other book on the market that so perfectly zeros-in on the extremely frustrating problems that many men have trying to score with decent-looking women, and that’s Without Embarrassment by Michael Pilinski.
This is a real book written by a real author. He was one of the first guys on the internet to tackle this particular issue of meeting women. This is not some recycled ripoff that sounds like it was written by a 5th grader. Mike’s writing style is provocative and engaging and keeps you reading right along like a snappy novel. I’ll tell you straight up that when it comes to delivering solid ideas on the subject of meeting girls, I am a fan of writer Mike Pilinski — whose work I think stands out head and shoulders above most of the other guys selling this type of material. His ideas are original and thought-provoking, and he gives you a sense that he has a genuine desire to help dudes escape from their loneliness by learning how to make themselves more attractive to women. You don’t get that sense from a lot of these PUA guys, many of them talk down to you like you’re a clueless idiot.
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While Mike’s unusual writing style might be laugh out loud funny at times, the information he delivers is no joke. Without Embarrassment is extremely comprehensive and loaded with solid teaching aids like color-coded lists, cheat sheets at the end of every chapter, etc. Best of all, a lot of what Mike presents is completely out of the box and different than the usual stuff you get from these other pick up girls guru’s out there. He advises you on how to reframe your thinking in an uplifting way that’s more like a helpful big brother coaching you, rather than some know-it-all “natural” a-hole telling you how it’s done.
Most importantly, Without Embarrassment will bring you face-to-face with all your weaknesses and the inner demons that are making it difficult for you to connect with women romantically. Mike presents an amazing concept known as toxic shame. This weird emotion is examined in depth and revealed as a basis for understanding the common fears that can lead to your failures with women. This idea of deeply hidden feelings of shame having been driven into your personality at a young age, which then quietly grows in the background to block your development of a strong male identity, is revolutionary I think. That idea right there really rocked me to my core and changed my whole attitude about what was wrong with my entire approach to women.
One thing I didn’t like about this book was the length, it’s a 300 page book and you can get lost trying to go back and find stuff that you want to re-read again in the sea of pages. Each chapter does at least have a crip-notes summary at the end though that helps you to quickly review the important points covered. This is good if you want to do a quick brush-up before you go out bar hopping with your friends.
So if you’re a young dude and you’ve been struggling trying to meet girls and get hooked up, I would recommend you get this book. It will help you. Of all the books and video programs out there, this one helped me get my confidence up the most and really took me under the hood of my own screwed-up thinking and showed me some amazing stuff about what was wrong and holding me back. Without Embarrassment will allow you to actually USE the advice that you find in many of these other systems for picking up girls, because it will show you – not just lots of various techniques – but also how to develop the confidence in yourself to make them work.
You can check out all of Mike Pilinski’s materials, audio programs, read book samples and see more reviews on his website:
Mike has also written another good follow-up book about dating called ‘She’s Yours For The Taking’. This one wasn’t as life-changing for me as without embarrassment, but it’s loaded with a highly structured plan for seducing a girl in 3 carefully planned dates that eventually ends up in the bedroom. Good advice overall, and you can currently get the both e-books together in a discount pack.
Direct Buy Without Embarrassment links:
kindle version – $9.97 (Amazon)
.pdf e-book – $14.95 (Clickbank)
softcover (300 pgs.) – $24.95 (Amazon)
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Also take a look at this other post I wrote about overcoming fear when it comes to meeting women:
Hi! Thanks for your resource! Actually I have never read anything that informative.